7 things you should know about TTC
I never planned on being the type of person that had 4 period trackers on my phone or body temperature charts all over our bathroom. If you would have told me a year ago that we were going to want a baby this badly, I would have laughed and thought you were absurd. But here we are, a year later and it is all I can seem to think about some days. I never knew there was this whole other world. The world of women trying to conceive, but there is. There are so many of them. What's crazy is your whole life changes when you enter this new world. I didn't realize it until I was already in it. First off, your month turns into sections. Section 1: your period, boo hoo not pregnant this month, lets get this over with so we can start trying for next month! Section 2: fertile week! Let me take $40 worth of ovulation tests so we can plan it perfectly and pray to God we can catch that egg in time.
Section 3: the two week wait. This is the longest two weeks of your entire life. It's when you can't seem to think about anything other then all of the "symptoms" your body seems to be showing, when really its probably just in your head but you still get your hopes up only to be disappointed when AF shows her mean face.
Section 4: Taking a pregnancy test. This will either be the best day of your life or you will be depressed, crying, and binge on all sorts of food while watching friends reruns in bed all day.
Secondly, you will have a new section of your heart that has jealousy and sadness. You don't want it there, but there is nothing you can do to get rid of it. Of course, you can soften it and you will. It will seem like everyone you know is getting pregnant. You will try so hard to be happy for those who have what you are praying for every second of the day, but the second you get behind closed doors, the tears just flow. Don't feel sorry. It is okay to be happy for them and sad for yourself at the same time
Third, don't take your pregnancy test early. I am not one to give advice on this because it is a piece of advice I often do not listen to. But just take it from someone who has had a lot of negatives and disappointment because she didn't wait the extra two days until her period was due. You do not want to disappoint yourself even more. You will stare at your pregnancy test, throw it away because you can't see anything, then go dig it out of the trash 2 hours later to check and see if it has changed. I know you do this, because we all do. I told you, we have entered our own little world where this is socially acceptable. There is nothing worse then wanting something so badly, and having this stick tell you that you can't have it this month. Instead of having 3 or 4 days of disappointing negatives, wait for the missed period, then hopefully you will only have a day of excitement, and if your period does come, its only one day of disappointment. Fourth: If you get pregnant on your first month trying, you are incredibly lucky. Women only have a 17% chance of conceiving each month (IF you ovulate every month). I know its hard not to get discouraged. I see women getting pregnant on their first try and it brings me back to that jealousy section of my heart, but you have to remember that just because you aren't pregnant yet, doesn't mean you aren't able to be pregnant. Fifth: Things will bother you more. It will bug you when people say "stop trying, then it will happen." It will upset you when you see pregnant women complaining they are pregnant or see women get pregnant who weren't even trying at all. It will upset you when people complain how tired they are because their baby wouldn't sleep through the night. You will get upset and that's okay. Sixth: You will probably spend all of your money on ovulation kits and pregnancy tests. There isn't much I can say about this one except say goodbye to that vacation you were saving up for.
Seventh: You didn't know how badly you wanted a baby until now. I know for us, when we lost our twins, that only fueled our desire for a family even more. Now that you are actively trying to have a baby, it will seem like there is nothing else in the world you want more.
I want you all to remember, that it will happen. Whether you have been trying for 3 months, 2 years, or have decided to adopt. You will have a child. I wish all of you the best of luck on your TTC journey and I hope that you all can get pregnant as quickly as we all pray that we can.